I normally do not post shows I am on nor listen - today is very different. It was for male survivors. Boe, has a dynamic story and a special caller I know, as does many who know me, called in and spoke out for the first time. The program is two hours and posted at the end of this post.
When you realize we, you, I - do not need that environment and do not want to be associated with drama, bullies, people who walk over you or of no value. They may laugh at times, let you do what you want without giving an opinion, but opinions to the victim is not conversation. To them it is being scolded. A battle. Example; "I think the baby may have hazel eyes." "NO! The doctor said 100% they will be blue!" In a stern voice. Step back..You do not need that person anywhere near you until what they are dealing with is resolved. You are their dart board. Time for therapy!
One, I just may add onto my stalkers friends list because at this point in time she is not realizing that many victims are out there suffering because of this stalker and as she states she knows her. Has her information and still contacts me; I finally put an end to it. It is obvious she is still a victim and at this point does not care about anyone who is in need of her help. If she says who she says she is.
Anyone who claims to be stalked and harassed yet suddenly emails and says she knows where she is and who her family is and does not give me any details makes me think....Is she a victim or is she just prying for information because she is still working with the STALKER because they constantly go back and forth "as friends." Even though stalker claims she is a "troll" and tells everyone she is. I get an email from her maybe twice a year. Always about harassment.
This person contacts me only. I reply and she only shows up when the stalking begins again. So this tells me 1. she is a friend. 2. she may be a victim still in a victim stage. 3. She could be the STALKER.
Allowing this "changed person" a chance to be in my life was the wrong thing to do. I even told my little one, Leah, I was scared. "I bet she needs something." This makes no sense and as much as she says she wants time, I've seen her 5 times in 6 months. 3 we shopped with my credit card. Not that I think she understands what she was doing, but something triggered her to drop out of the sky and fabricate a list of what she thought I needed to hear instead of giving me what I really wanted which was just time. Fun. Our relation back. She reacted on impulse.
While she had no support from her counter part equal allowing anyone into his life that has an opinion. Not a demand. We all chit chat. However we all have lines as well.
I am not going to sit in my neighbors house all day when I am allergic to her cats. All 8 of them! That's my right. But I am not going to be mean to her for having 8 cats and she is welcome here anytime. And, I am not going to bitch she was able to get a new car, washer, dryer and go on a vacation. Go girl! I'm saving for that as well. This is all about victims. Because victims react to petty things. As the above had.
She can do her nails. As my mother did. Put on her makeup. As my mother did. Wear nice clothes. As my mothere did. Look like the 2.5 family and appear to others she is perfect. However, she is not. My mother died because of hiding.
Instead of being open and honest she is living in a closet of lie's upon lie's upon lie's. I was a secret. A huge secret. So much of a secret, I did not know I was a secret until someone thought or asked about me. Then said, "I did not know you two were friends?"
The ones that were the abuser, are the abuser or is controlling her. Or, she is now a perpetrator not in recovery. As my mother was.
My husband can see or be with anyone he wants to be with. As can I. He cannot drive, so come pick him up. He has his own mind and own choices in life.
Once it goes into second printing I will not have a say in the donations. And, those who purchase at other sites are either A. Stolen from the publisher (two boxes) or B. Not benefiting any organization. I have never made a penny off the first edition because I wanted to help the charities and others who were in need of money, such as families of an abducted child and in need of funds and organizations.
A large loss was taken when Borders and Books was suppose to send the checks to ChildLures. They made a lot of money because no money was sent to anyone. Since then it has been removed from all sites and stores.
Anyone who has any office space in Clearlake Oaks, Nice, Glenhaven or Lucerne; please contact me at our new work number 415-747-1984.